I am still shocked to this day that I chose to have 3 children not 4 (I always wanted 4)…that is until my last child comes tearing through the house, demolishing everything in sight and reciting his favourite sentence “I’m hungry, what can I eat”!
We had our first born, Leia, in 2009. Leia was such an angel.
I remember most Friday’s I would take her shopping all day with my mum and she happily came along. She would be happy to socialise with us for hours in restaurants or at friend’s houses. She was always so content that friends and family couldn’t believe it. They would say “you’ve got it so easy with Leia, you wait until your next one comes along”!
Well I was none the wiser and presumed I’d cracked this parenting milarky (Paha), so my plans for 4 seemed perfect.
When Leia was 6 months old we were so happy to tell everyone that we were expecting our second baby! It was truly mad to believe I would have 2 children so close in age but I do love a challenge so couldn’t wait! Unfortunately, our darling Grace was too precious for this earth and entered the world with her angel wings when I was 7 months pregnant.
With our world turned upside down we spent all of our time with Leia (as always) enjoying everything she brought us and chose to let things naturally take course. Within a month or two I was pregnant again and we were excited to welcome another baby girl into the world with a water birth. Lottie’s birth was complicated but so lovely in the water and I’ll never forget seeing her and excitedly shrieking “it’s another pink one”.
Lottie was a beautiful baby but brought her drama from day one, little pickle!
As I had given birth in a mid-wife led unit I needed to be transferred as an emergency via ambulance to the nearest major hospital for an operation to remove my placenta. Then Lottie decided to panic everyone and kept turning blue which baffled doctors. After a few days of checks we were told she had a small hole in her heart that should heal itself. We took our delicate baby home thinking we could get back to normal family life.
But things were not right as Lottie was never able to go to the toilet as a newborn. Doctors prescribed 2 types of medicine 3 times a day but this worried me and I wanted to find the actual route of the problem.
Within a few months of various symptoms (including projectile vomiting 3 times a day) I was convinced that Lottie had an intolerance to dairy. After a lot of referrals and mothers instinct I finally got the help I needed and Lottie started to become more comfortable and content without dairy but still craved my undivided attention.
Unfortunately, a wheat intolerance followed when I started to wean her. Once I had removed the wheat from her diet she was back to her crazy cheeky self!
At this point in our lives we knew that we were very lucky to have our two beautiful, happy girls and I thought long and hard if I would like 2 or 4 children, as I was always warned against having odd numbers.
I adore newborn babies and I loved being pregnant so it was hard when we finally made the decision to stick to being a family of 4.
But obviously that did not last long and me being me…always trying to cram too much into my daily life…I changed my mind!! haha
I was going to go against advice of odd numbers and have just one more baby because I knew I wasn’t finished bringing babies into the world.
As with all of my children, I fell pregnant again very quickly and was overjoyed I would be having another baby. The usual jokes came in from the husband “if it’s another girl I’m building a man cave”…etc.
We secretly found out we were having a baby boy and were both excited about the prospect of change.
Lochlan was born in 2014 in an absolute whirlwind of emergency c-section. Lochlan was stuck inside my hip bones back-to-back and face presentation. Apparently, you can never give birth with baby in this position and it was all found out far too late, hence the emergency.
I was very poorly (I’m pretty sure my skin was either grey or see-through) for 6 months after I had Lochlan as I lost so much blood but he was such a wonderful baby…so happy, so adorable, so content…Oh how that has changed!
I instantly knew he was my last baby for various reasons…we were lucky that all three of our earth babies were happy and healthy, also because I had diced with death a few times with each of the last pregnancies and lastly because day-to-day life with 3 was hectic…especially as Lottie was our crazy 2 year old at the time, always getting up to mischief.
But I did have 4 babies as I always had wanted and for that I am very lucky!
Life today is even more hectic because in the last 4 years since Lochlan was born a lot of things have changed….
Our eldest, Leia, was diagnosed with Dyslexia at the age of 6. Lottie has gone on to develop an allergy to coconut and a rare skin condition which causes her a lot of discomfort. And Lochlan has the same intolerances to wheat and dairy as Lottie and MY OH MY a huge strong personality which rivals hers!
So, safe to say, all 3 children require a lot of my daily attention and always have…and that is why I chose to have 3 children not 4 but I wouldn’t have them any other way!
Leia is growing into a strong, confident, happy and caring girl and is wise beyond her years.
Charlotte is adorably crazy and funny, she has a big personality and huge heart and is always trying to please everyone.
Lochlan is hilarious…so confident yet sensitive and happy but will contest at every opportunity.
They are my world, all day every day and I adore them!